Fairness Isn't Always Best

Salli's Divorce Support Blog

The holidays can be a very difficult period for those going through divorce. It may be a time when you question the fairness of circumstances; the equity of life. You may feel you were dealt a poor hand and that you have been targeted by someone who treated you wrongfully.

During a particularly sad period in my life, I struggled with the injustice of a situation. Feeling as though I deserved better treatment based on my hard work, honesty, and my loyalty, I woke in the early hours of the morning and called out to the Lord: “That wasn’t fair! Why did that have to happen to me? Why was I treated so poorly?”

That’s when He spoke to me and taught me a very significant life lesson. He said, “Just because something is unjust and unfair, doesn’t mean it isn’t what is best for you.”

That inspired thought carried a new perspective for me. As I looked at my troubling situation through the Lord's eyes, I realized that sometimes the best fruit appears after a good pruning. What may feel unjust, wrong, or even hurtful may open the gateway to a better, more productive path.

Looking back over my life, I can see how the Lord has worked wondrous miracles in my life, and the lives of those around me, as He has allowed bad things to happen to good people in an effort to channel them in a better direction.

Divorce may feel unfair, unjust, and undeserved—especially during the holiday season-- but trust the Lord has plans for you. Awesome, amazing, and wonderful plans!


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