Be "SALTY" Through Divorce

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I'm in 3rd Nephi right now and just beginning to read about the Savior's appearance to the Nephites after the destruction that attended His resurrection.

I've thought it interesting, for years, that one of the first things He tells the Nephites is to cease contending one with another and that "...he that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but of the devil" and it is His doctrine that "such things should be done away" (2 Nephi 11:29-30).

I noted, this morning, that there was a cross reference in verse 30 to Mark 9:50, which I found quite interesting when I looked it up. It says: "Salt is good: but if the salt have lost his saltness, wherewith will ye season it? Have salt in yourselves, and have peace one with another."

I learn from this passage that in order to be the "salt of the earth" or--you could say--in order to be the "flavor" that influences humanity in righteousness, we must have peace in our midst and not a spirit of contention.

Contention? Who me? No way!

Actually, what family doesn't entertain that devilish spirit from time to time? Even those of us who know better...

(Have you ever noticed that on the way to church, or to the temple, how easy it is to fall into a spirit of contention? Here we are, on our way to formally worship the Lord, and suddenly we break out in a fight!)

Of course, that is Satan trying to disturb our peace because we are following the Savior's path. The secret is to recognize his devilish influence when it appears and to "do away" with it as the Savior counsels in 3 Nephi 11:30.

Divorce is a circumstance when Satan glories in his belief that he has destroyed our happiness. Buying into his thinking, at this tender place in our life, is a mistake we don't want to make.

As we adjust to divorce, rather than give-in to Satan's wiley ways, put off the habits of disagreeable sharpness, harsh or crabby expressions, and even raising our voice in frustration. I would also include cocky interactions and mean-spirited teasing--especially those borne out of boredom and lack of stimulation.

Rise above the reaction of the common man.

Ponder how it feels, and what it looks like, to be the "salt of the earth" as the Savior describes.

When we respond with loving calm, composure, humility, and charity--especially when Satan is trying to influence us--we cultivate a spirit of unity and foster that savory peace and kindness that is so necessary in our families and so needed in this wicked world.

Above all, consider what the Lord may want His divorced Saints to become, and what His expectations are in setting a pattern of righteousness for others watching us.

Afterall, if the result of putting off contention is peace isn't that blessing worth striving for?

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Divorced and full of fret and regret, I found my 'Reason for Living' on the internet. Now, my life is lots of fun, married in Portland, Oregon.

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