Stay Humble Through Divorce

Salli's Divorce Support Blog

For LDS people, particularly, the decision to divorce represents a huge conflict. As members of the church, when we are married--and, most often, sealed--to the companion of our choice, we expect to stay together forever.

Unfortunately, the church's divorce rate ranks right up there with the rest of the world.

I quote from the divorce guide I have posted on this website:

"The choice to divorce is a very personal one—a decision between the individual making the determination and the Lord. Some divorces are made by people seeking escape from the self-sacrificing, difficult, and sometimes uncomfortable requirements of marriage. In the final analysis those individuals will be responsible to the Lord for their personal choices."   

Elder Dallin H. Oaks said, "(Divorce) is a sensitive subject because it evokes such strong emotions from persons it has touched in different ways. Some see themselves or their loved ones as the victims of divorce. Others see themselves as its beneficiaries. Some see divorce as evidence of failure. Others consider it an essential escape hatch from marriage. In one way or another, divorce touches most families in the Church (April 2007 General Conference)."

When a member of the church chooses divorce, be certain it is what the Lord wants.

Staying married and working through the discomfort, the conflict, the lonliness, and the breach of promise is better than leaving the marriage and going against the will of the Lord.

Like Nephi taking the life of Laban for the sake of obtaining the brass plates, he acted under the command of God.

Our decision to divorce needs to be sanctioned by the Lord, too; don't rely on the arm of flesh for this important and life-changing decision.


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Divorced and full of fret and regret, I found my 'Reason for Living' on the internet. Now, my life is lots of fun, married in Portland, Oregon.

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