Divorce, an Essential Wound

Salli's Divorce Support Blog

I finished reading a great book this week--"Write From the Heart" by Hal Zina Bennett. For those of you who are aspiring writers, I recommend it.

But back to my LDS divorce audience: Mr. Bennett talks about his theory that we all carry an essential wound in life--you know, an event that happened to us that has caused a fundamental sorrow that "shades the tapestry of our life with the crimson color of our blood". It's Hal's premise that if you come through life unscathed, you probably don't have much of a story to tell.

The whole idea behind Hal's book is that because there is a lot of energy around our personal travails and woes, we are wise when we tap into their creative potential and learn what our problems have to show us.

Have you ever thought of the issues of your divorce in that light? As a resource for creative energy? Kinda cool!

For instance, because I have been divorced and faced myriad challenges during that period of my life, I have a library of experience to share with others about what to do and what not to do during your critical divorced years. When I realized that the internet had basically nothing for LDS people looking for divorce support with the values of the gospel, that we love so well, I knew I had a mission!

That's when SunnyDawn.com was born.

After reading "Write From the Heart" and pondering Mr. Bennett's thoughts about how vital the essential wound is in fostering a singularly rich voice within the bosom of those who hold it, I'm reminded of a quote by Elder Paul V. Johnson in April General Conference: "We must be careful that we don't resent the very things that help us put on the divine nature."

After all, shouldn't that be the purpose of the essential wound? To allow life, and all it's profundity, to teach us what it has to teach?

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Divorced and full of fret and regret, I found my 'Reason for Living' on the internet. Now, my life is lots of fun, married in Portland, Oregon.

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