The Blessings of Divorce
Although the word divorce seldom brings more than thoughts of sadness, heartbreak, and painful separation, it can also represent, for some people, a new start and a fresh beginning. Elder Oaks in his April 2007 conference talk entitled, "Divorce" made an interesting observation:
"(Divorce) is a sensitive subject because it evokes such strong emotions from persons it has touched in different ways. Some see themselves or their loved ones as the victims of divorce. Others see themselves as its beneficiaries. Some see divorce as evidence of failure. Others consider it an essential escape hatch from marriage."
In general, the word divorce symbolizes the failure of something very sacred and important: marriage. And it should be regarded as a devastating disappointment. A marital relationship is the holiest agreement two people can make in this life. It signifies a hallowed decision for a couple to join together, with the Lord, in creating a sacred organization—a family. Marriage between man and woman allows for the best means—the Lord’s way--of bringing new life into the world. The breakup of such a union is a terrible calamity.
Unfortunately, during these last days as goodness and right slip ever-increasingly from our grasp, as people and families are polarized in their commitment to the Lord and His truth, and as sacred promises are easily forgotten, divorce can be a tool for some people to escape damaging situations and begin again.
Indeed, the LDS Bible Dictionary states: “Permitted under some circumstances because of the hardness of the people’s hearts”.
“…because of the hardness of the people’s hearts”.
Sometimes in a bad marriage one is not only unhappy, but suffering. When two hearts are interwined, the subsequent hardness of one mandates the liberation of the other--if not, both will perish.
No, divorce is not our first choice, but sometimes it's the best one.