Expect the Best Case Scenario

Salli's Divorce Support Blog

It is not uncommon for me to receive notes from my reader’s telling me about the terrible troubles and issues happening in their lives. It can be very disheartening to hear the reality of what people face as they wade through the backwash of divorce. Divorce--and all its ramifications--can wreak havoc in your world.

I recall feeling as though I was drowning in stress and sadness the first few years I was divorced. I had financial challenges to deal with as I supported my remaining children on my teacher assistant’s salary. We moved off our farm where I’d raised my five kids for twenty-one years—which felt like a major amputation. One son tried to commit suicide. There are no words to describe the desolation I felt in my mind, body and spirit during that period.

Tough stuff.

When you’re in the middle of it, it seems it will never go away—that you are doomed to struggle forever. You may even nurse the fear that even if things improve, you’ve been through so much that you’ve probably lost your ability to ever feel peaceful and joyful again.

But you will. Somehow things evolve and change and emerge into something else—and because you’re at rock bottom today, things can only get better!

Yesterday my husband and I were driving past the street I lived on for so many years. I saw the spot in the road where I use to turn around and go back home while out taking my daily walk. That spot use to be as familiar to me as the back of my hand. But as I drove by yesterday, those days seemed like a book I read a long, long time ago. And even though those days were significant at the time, I don’t feel connected to them at all anymore.

Just let nature takes its course. Trust that the Lord will carve out something wonderful for your future. Assume the best and it will come to you!


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Divorced and full of fret and regret, I found my 'Reason for Living' on the internet. Now, my life is lots of fun, married in Portland, Oregon.

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