The Words, "I am..."

Salli's Divorce Support Blog

Now that you have gone from being married to being divorced, let's spend a little bit of time reviewing one of my particular favorite ways in which we can move forward to intend a fresh and positive start into the future.

The old fashioned terms were "hypnotism" or "auto-suggestion". In my younger days, we referred to it as "positive self-affirmation".

Nowadays, there seems to be no mystery about it--if one wants to stop or start new habits and qualities, you simply state it as fact--and stay in that mindset. And being divorced is a critical time to stay positive!

Here are some positive affirmations, for example: "I am burning calories at a high rate," "I am patient and tender with my little ones," "I am healthy and happy," or one of the most popular clichés of all: "Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better!"

Particularly, when I found myself divorced, I discovered that when I spoke positively to myself, about myself, I experienced a far greater chance at a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

Here's a quote I found that I thought was appropriate for this topic:

"The words "I am..." are potent words; be careful what you hitch them to. The thing you're claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you." --A.L. Kitselman

So, practice these ideas for 21 days and see if it doesn't improve--not only your perspective and attitude--but your reality, as well. It can even make being divorced a positive experience.

And if you don't trust it can make a dynamic difference in your life, I guess my hope for you is that you'll at least decide that you won't hitch any negative forecasts to the words, "I am..."

Here's to a happier and healthier 2010 for everyone!


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