Patience is better than Pride

Salli's Divorce Support Blog

"Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit," Eccl.7:8.

While I was newly divorced and experiencing the learning curve of going from being married to being divorced, as well as adjusting to my new life of raising children alone, I remember stumbling onto this scripture. At the time I felt a lot of mixed emotion: fear about making decisions on my own, concern about how my ward members--that weren't divorced--perceived my situation, and lack of confidence as I faced certain challenges for this first time.

I was new at divorce. I'd never experienced it before. Everything in my life had changed and I struggled at getting comfortable. But when I saw this verse in the Old Testment, I was reminded that just like everything else in my life that I had struggled with at first, divorce was something I would get use to.

And I did! I quickly learned the merits of being a single parent, I stopped worrying about what others thought about me as I gained a deeper conviction that I was exactly where the Lord wanted me to be, and I also simply got better at "doing" my new life as I practiced everyday. Like riding a bike or playing the piano.

So, have patience as you get better at being divorced while the days and weeks happen. You'll get more comfortable, at ease, and confident about what is transpiring in your life. As you do, reach out and help someone else going through the same experience. Pass on some of that patience!

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Divorced and full of fret and regret, I found my 'Reason for Living' on the internet. Now, my life is lots of fun, married in Portland, Oregon.

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