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"Sometimes good things fall apart..."
"...so better things can fall together." Marilyn Monroe I love this quote I found posted on FB today! It speaks to a truth that we often don't allow ourselves to embrace. That is, that in the dissolution of something that has previously existed, perhaps room is made for a better situation. Back in 1988, there was a terrible forest fire in Yellowstone. I remember thinking, at the time, how tragic it all seemed that such a historic and scenic natural treasure was destroyed. How could things ever be... read more
Bi-Polar Disorder and Divorce
A reader wrote today asking if there is anyone in the LDS divorced community who has experience with a spouse with bi-polar disorder. Here is a bit of insight, as well as her question: "I was not even able to have a rational conversation with my spouse to try and save our marriage because his perspective was so irrational and he was going by his moods which were not based on reality, so I have been left with the feeling of devastation and frustration in not having been able to talk to him and have him... read more
Be Sensible During Tough Times
Divorce brings out the worst in people most of the time. I guess that's one reason why the Lord hates it (Malachi 2:6). Even when you've given diligent effort to following the Savior and choosing the straight and narrow path--there's just something that happens to your ability to compose and restrain yourself when someone you once loved and trusted, becomes a foe. Kind of like trying to stay pleasant and chipper while you're being stung by a bee; it's just too much to expect! But here is a thought to c... read more
Setting Healthy Boundaries
Unfortunately, as the world polarizes in opinion and perspective, sometimes this polarization affects a marriage. Though both parties feel justified in their viewpoints, it is not uncommon for one partner to begin overstepping their boundaries to “shape” the change they want or to validate their own perceptions. Those who have experienced divorce might have experienced these uncomfortable and confusing circumstances. There are people who actually thrive on mistreating other people. When this... read more
When Conflict Looms Large
It happens to everyone--single or not--that life seems to crash down all at once. That might be good news to those who are on their own and have a sense that bad things only happen to you when you’re without a partner! That’s not true. Challenges definitely come to everyone--married or not. Sometimes facing the challenges with a partner can actually complicate problems even further. So partnered-up or not, challenges will come. And sometimes they threaten to overwhelm us. But ... read more
President Faust's quote:
Here's the source of the quote I used from President Faust in my last blog. It apparently was not from general conference but was a part of the First Presidency message in the April 2007 Ensign. James E. Faust, “Enriching Your Marriage,” Ensign, Apr 2007, 4–8 read more
When the Gospel Doesn't Seem to Make a Difference--part 3
I’ve often thought of a marriage as a bridge, of sorts, and of each spouse in the marriage as pillars that hold the marriage up. If one partner chooses to relinquish his best efforts at living the gospel it can cause the bridge to collapse, no matter how strong and determined the other pillar is. Over a sustained period of time, when the choices of one partner result in hopeless circumstances that devastate their spouse or children’s self-respect, and make it difficult, if not impossibl... read more
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