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How About Adding Holiness to our Lives?
As someone who has been through divorce, and as I think about new beginnings and how I want to improve myself, I've been compelled to ponder the value and importance of adding more spirituality--holiness, if you will--to my life; especially now that I have remarried. When I was divorced, as well as now, I found it particularly helpful when I spent more time consciously turning on Mormon Tabernacle CD's and picking up the scriptures and other good books written my apostles and general authorities, rather th... read more
Speaking of Positive Affirmations...
After I remarried, 6 1/2 years ago, and Ken and I moved from Portland, Oregon to Madison, Wisconsin ("Clicking on a Miracle" see our Product Page for more details!), I decided to write a list of events and ambitions I wanted to have happen in my life. I took the task very seriously: I prayed about it, composed the phrases thoughtfully, edited it, then memorized it. Newly married after my divorce, I felt the desire to redefine myself! So, on my daily walks, in that startlingly beautiful part of the country... read more
The Words, "I am..."
Now that you have gone from being married to being divorced, let's spend a little bit of time reviewing one of my particular favorite ways in which we can move forward to intend a fresh and positive start into the future. The old fashioned terms were "hypnotism" or "auto-suggestion". In my younger days, we referred to it as "positive self-affirmation". Nowadays, there seems to be no mystery about it--if one wants to stop or start new habits and qualities, you simply state it as fact--and stay in that mind... read more
No One Said Divorce Would Be Easy...
I was thinking today of the many references we hear regarding life, such as: "Anything worthwhile is never easily achieved," "No one said it would be easy--only worth it," and "Life is hard work--and hard work hurts!" It doesn't sound very encouraging, does it? Especially when you're already going through something difficult, such as adjusting to divorce. But don't let it get you down.... It's been my observation for many years that even good transitions take some adjustment. Simply because you are trans... read more
How to Begin After Divorce? Channel Your Energy!
Being married and then divorcing can take all the wind out of your sails for awhile. My worst health and my most depleted-energy-days all seemed to happen when I was transitioning from being married to being divorced. Perhaps it was because the learning curve of singleness was new to me--and thus exhausting. Maybe, in part, it was because I suddenly carried the full load of all responsibilities related to home and children. Likely, it was also related to the fact that when you are divorced, and scared ab... read more
"Remember Lot's Wife" by Jeffrey R. Holland
January is a great time to ponder new beginnings. Here's a beautiful talk recommended to Ken and I this afternoon by a couple in our ward. Entitled, "Remember Lot's Wife" Given by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland last year on January 13th, 2009 at a BYU Devotional, it reminds us of the importance of moving forward after divorce and not looking back. We were inspired by it as we sat and listened with Dallin (Remember Dallin from Clicking on a Mircle?). Enjoy! read more
New Year Ahead!
Welcome to 2010! The New Year is such a great time to pause and evaluate, consider the possibilities, and begin again to create the life you want to enjoy when you have transitioned from being married to being divorced. I like that about life! What a wonderful thing that you can stop in your tracks and make the decision to reinvent yourself and your circumstances. That is one advantage being divorced offers. Easy? Not always, but the fact that we can begin again, and again, is evidenced by t... read more
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